Ok, I’m allowed to say this because I have crossed the threshold between my 1st pregnancy and motherhood. If you are pregnant with your first child (and have not other children) do yourself a favor and SHUT UP!
Yes, you are pregnant with an actual child, yes you are entitled to your own opinions, and goodness know you have 5,000 of those already, but every time you open your mouth in regards to your birth plan (Ha!), parenting style, or how your baby is going to sleep through the night, you are digging yourself deeper and deeper into the hole of shame.
I call it the hole of shame because every single time I failed (and fail) to live up to those goals and aspirations I had for myself and my child, I feel ashamed, like a big, fat, failure.
As if parenting isn’t already hard enough, don’t add to it by setting yourself up for failure time and time again.
I get it, the load of advice, especially the out dated old school advice, can get really, really, old, and you’re more than entitled to your own opinions and plans. But keep it to yourself, you have no earthly idea what you’re in for, and people are only trying to help.
I don’t recommend using the words “never,” ever, and don’t argue with someone that gives you advice with what you plan to do instead. Plan to prove yourself with your actions, not your words.