If you’re a police officer, you have to accept the fact that any day could be your last, if you love a police officer you have to accept it too.

Its easy to be proud that your husband is a cop. He looks d@mn good in his uniform. He saves lives, kicks a$$, has a special kind of respect from many, and he’s all yours.

But what you hate is how absolutely sick you are with worry sometimes. Maybe you’ve just had a bad feeling all day or you’re listening to the police scanner and know he’s out on a dangerous call. You see local wanted criminals on the news and you worry your husband will be the one to find them.

You pray your socks off everyday for him and his safety, and you pray even harder on the days he actually works. You spend half the month home alone at night and countless holidays without him. I used to love a police officer.

One evening around 7 pm my police officer was working nights. It would be the last night he ever wore the uniform. I was sitting around goofing off on my phone when a text flashed across the screen “I’ve shot someone, I’m ok”.

Little did we know that our entire worlds would be turned upside down in the days and years to come and that we’d be engaged, married, and parents, before it was ever resolved.

Little did we know that the world would have to power to push us closer together than we’ve ever been and pull us further apart than we could ever imagine.

There were days of uncertainty, tears, anger, hope, and set backs that had no end in sight.

We found hope in unfamiliar places and lost it in places that felt comfortable. We learned a lot of lessons along the way and like to think we made it to the other side stronger.

I used to love a police officer, but now I love a man.

Blessed are the peacemakers,
for they will be called sons of God.


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  1. Jona

    Oh I guess we had almost the same destiny. I married a seafarer, so I can feel the same way.

  2. Corinne & Kirsty 🌸 (@corinnekirsty)

    Such a lovely post. It is a beautiful story! Like we sometimes tend to think of other people from what they do or represent. Great to see how you change your perspective! xx corinne

  3. thehouseturnedhome

    Awww, what a great post! I’m not married to a Police Officer, but I am a military wife, so I understand the worry and stress that comes with the job.

  4. Josselyn Radillo

    This is a sweet post. I’m actually so proud of all the wives of officers or firefighters because It must be hard to have a bad feeling- I admire you for being such a great wife

  5. Mariana Abeid-McDougall

    Beautiful text. I have the luxury of being with my husband every day, and I count my blessings. I am thankful to the soldiers who protect our freedoms, the firefighters who protect our lives, and the police officers who protect our safety (all those things can be interchangeable between those people, too). But I’m even more thankful to the families of the people who serve. They sacrifice a lot as well, and they should be recognized.

  6. She's A Hot Mess (@Ohshesahotmess)

    So beautifully written. I am not married nor do i love a poliece officer, but I am a member of the Blue Lives Matter. Please tell your husband thank you for his service.

  7. Ana De-Jesus

    It must be so frightening when someone works in a dangerous job but through everything you can learn some important life lessons. It is great that you are still together x

  8. Enjoyfreebies

    I could only imagine how hard it must be to be married to a police officer. But it sounds like you have such an amazing life together. He is not only a hero to others, but also to your family as well.

  9. Sondra Barker

    Wow this is beautiful. I’m sure many can relate to you.

  10. Sondra Barker

    Im sure many can relate to your story. You are brave and I hope he remains safe.

  11. alisonrost

    I can’t imagine being married to someone who puts themselves in harms way as part of their profession. I take my hat off to your family, it takes two incredibly tough people to get through things like this

  12. toastycritic

    Such a beautiful and touching story. I can only imagine loving a man in that kind of a situation. And I think it’s probably very similar for spouses of people in the military. Would be so hard to hang on.

  13. Elizabeth O.

    I can only imagine the pang of worry that you feel every time he’s out saving lives and protecting the city. This is such a heartfelt post and thank you for sharing your story.

  14. Heather Tomoyasu (@USJapanFam)

    Beautiful post!! I feel so much for wives/husbands and families of the brave who serve our country and put their lives in danger. My husband is a workaholic and we never seen him during the week, but I know he’ll come home at some point in the night. Thank you to all the police officers, fire fighters, military, and others working hard to make it safer for the rest of us!!

  15. Leo T. Ly

    My brother in law was also a police officer. It can be quite difficult for family members as the are worries every day. Now that he’s a former officer things in the family and the dynamics changed quite a bit.

    Hoping that your family dynamics also changed for the better too.

  16. Nancy

    Your touching post left me with more questions than answers 🙂
    What happened to the shot person?
    Why did it take so long to resolve?
    Did your husband stop being a poilceman?

    Love the photos by the way, especially where He holds the baby. So adorable. Blessings to your family.

  17. Louise x (@withlovefromlou)

    I have to admit that I would hate to be in a relationship with a policeman. Or a firefighter, for that matter. I would be worried sick all the time. There was a point when I was reading this that I thought your special guy had passed away. I’m so relieved he hadn’t! Wishing you both a long and happy life together 🙂

    Louise x

  18. Celerhina Aubrey

    What a lovely post. Our country, the Philippines, is experiencing terror attacks in one of our provinces. And I’ve never felt so much gratitude to our men in uniform who makes sure that we live in peace. I can’t imagine what you’re going through but send my love and thanks to your husband for all his sacrifices

  19. Mommy Peach

    What a heart warming post. I am a police officer by profession but I never got to practice it because my family didn’t want me to.

  20. Fatima Torres at MTME

    Such an inspirational piece on not giving up on the one you love. Sometimes we get caught up in our lives that we forget to about everyone else.

  21. Befitting Style

    OMG it must be scary dating a police officer. Literally praying everyday that he comes home safe.


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